How to soften coarse gray hair

January 3, 2020

How to Soften coarse Gray Hair

We tend to naturally cover up our gray hair. What happens if we decide not to and try to rock the look? Gray hair can be extremely gorgeous - provided we give it the right care. 

You must have experienced the coarseness of your gray hair by now and want nothing but to go back to your pre-gray days. It’s not as bad as you think, though. While gray hair can be coarser than natural hair, it simply just needs more attention to become smooth and shiny. A little more care with the right shampoo and attention to how you treat your hair is all it will take for your hair to be back to being silky and soft. 

The attention has to be constant though. You can’t follow hair routines for three weeks straight and then forget about them once your hair starts looking soft again. If you don’t take care of your hair, it will just go back to being coarse. 

Let’s follow some simple steps on how to soften coarse gray hair

1. The Right Shampoo

The first order of business is always the shampoo. If you are using blue-hued shampoos, do not use them more than once or twice in a month. Don’t forget to use the conditioner too. Too much shampoo will make your hair feel coarse. 

Also, it’s best if you stick to shampoos that are specifically made for gray hair. They not only prevent the yellow tone from showing but also have the right amount of ingredients to push your hair to the soft territory, instead of coarse. As these shampoos tend to have more natural than chemical products, your hair isn’t exposed to any harsh substances either. 

Moisturizing shampoos are best for your hair. When you are looking for a shampoo, see if it has water as one of the major ingredients or even the word ‘hydrating’ in the description. Don’t shampoo daily, instead stick to thrice a week. 

However, when you do shampoo, do it twice. Before you wash off the shampoo, let it sit on your hair for some time before you wash it off. This will give the shampoo time to properly work on your hair. Gray hair attracts more pollution and heat than natural hair, so deep cleaning like this is a must!

Redken Color Extend Blondage is the perfect choice in this regard. It has everything you could wish for when it comes to shampoo for gray hair. 

2. The Conditioner

After you have washed your hair, apply a lightweight conditioner. Once a week, try and use an intensive hair conditioner if you can. If we compare gray hair to our natural hair, it has a tendency to gobble up whatever moisture is offered to it. As a result, when it doesn’t get enough, it looks brittle. When you condition it regularly, you are providing your hair with the care it seeks, thus softening your hair. 

However, if your hair is curly or naturally coarse, it does indeed require some deep conditioning. However, for hair that’s naturally straight, regular conditioning can be skipped. In fact, over conditioning straight hair can lead it to look too heavy and lanky. This is the opposite of what we are going for if we want our hair to look soft. 

We recommend Purple Conditioner by The BTW Co. for lightweight conditioner and Hydrating Argan Oil Hair Mask and Deep Conditioner By Arvazallia for intensive hair conditioner. 

3. Some Gloss and Glaze

You can smooth out the outer layer of your hair temporarily by trying on some gloss or glaze. It looks shinier with some serum too. For the glaze, pick the ones that have some sort of seed oil or fruit in them. They will offer your gray hair some much-needed nutrition. If you have a stylist, ask them to go for one that makes your hair shiny and soft looking. 

John Frieda Luminous Glaze seems to be the number one user’s choice for the glaze. For serum, vitamin Hair Serum has captured lots of hearts. 

4. Brush Your Hair

Yes! Brush your hair, every single day. This might seem the most obvious thing, but one will be surprised at how many people forget to brush their hair daily. When you have coarse gray hair to take care of, you should be all the more vigilant about your hair brushing routine. 

When you allow the bristles of your brush to run through your hair from the scalp to the very tip, you are distributing the oils in your hair along the way. Even if you brush every night for just6 weeks, in the end, we have complete confidence that your hair will appear softer and glossier. 

5. Preventing Hair Product Buildup

Well, this one only applies to you if you are one of those people who tend to use a lot of styling products on their hair or dye your hair often. When you are busy applying chemicals on your hair regularly or dyeing it, you are putting your gray hair through a lot of trouble underneath it. We have to make sure the styling product doesn’t continue to stay in your hair. 

The simplest solution to making sure no hair product is left behind in your scalp is to simply prepare a mixture of apple cider vinegar and your shampoo. Wash your hair with this mixture once a week. 

6. Stay Away From Heat

Heat isn’t good for your hair in general. It is more so the case for gray hair. If you must use a blow dryer, switch it to a cold setting. This can be helpful for your cuticles. 

Similarly, when you are washing your hair, use cold water instead of hot water. You aren’t doing your hair any favor by constantly exposing it to heat. In fact, when you are outside in the sun, try to keep your hair wrapped in a scarf. 

It doesn’t matter how rough your strands have gotten, as long as you invest some extra time in shampooing and conditioning your hair the right way, you and your gray hair will come out victorious. 

The presence of gray hair can be a sad reality for some people, but if you can make it soft and shiny, and the perfect shade of silver, it becomes nothing less than a style statement!